There are no words that can express my empathy for you. There are ups, there are downs, and riding this roller coaster, regardless of it has been months or years, is nothing I’d wish upon my worst enemy.
First and foremost, you are a Mother, you are strong, and you are amazing. Regardless of whether you have given birth or not, this is a part of your Motherhood journey. You have dedicated every ounce of your being to becoming a mother.
Whether you have had failed attempts at natural conception, rounds of hormone therapy and IVF, or the inability to carry resulting in miscarriage, you are experiencing grief that many will never know. You are so strong. You are learning how to grieve and hopefully heal, allowing yourself to grow and learn. You keep picking yourself up and pushing forward.
With these losses, please, allow yourself time to grieve. Let it out not let it go. Scream, cry, walk until you can’t feel your legs, but don’t pack it away to be forgotten. I can tell you first hand, grieving and feeling these losses will help you to be a better mother.
Even with infertility being so common, I have found it can be difficult to discuss. I believe that is because many don’t know what to say. For me, I didn’t want sympathy, I didn’t want advice, I just wanted my baby. I took it very personally. When I started opening up about this journey, I was able to let my support system know that I just wanted an ear and possibly a shoulder to cry on. They told ME I was strong and amazing, and those are healing words.
So in these moments of solidarity, when the world is weighing heavy upon you, just know that you are strong and you are amazing.